Expectations: are they really so completely overwhelming or all in your head?
I expect it won’t take more than an hour. I expected to have a job by the time I graduated. How do you expect me to read your mind?
No matter where you are in life or where you want to go, at times we are all haunted and overwhelmed by expectations. Whether they’re our own, those of our peers or those of our superiors, expectations have an uncanny way of being unrealized.
I grew up with certain expectations for myself, which included being gainfully employed upon graduating from college this May. With the drastic change in the economy and high-speed evolution of communications, I have found many of my expectations have gone unfulfilled. Some days it’s easy to feel like this mean I’ve failed.
After talking with just about any one who would listen, I’ve realized that I am definitely not alone and that I need to change my expectations in this economic climate.
This made me think: what other expectations do I have for myself (as a person, a professional, etc.) are completely off-base and unreachable? Am I setting myself up to fail?
Recently I had to fill out one of those personality indices which asks that you first select all of the adjectives that you feel you are expected to be and then to fill out all of the adjectives that you think you really are.
I realized that I believe that the world expects me to be, well, perfect. I am expected to be patient in my job search but tenacious when applying for opportunities. I am expected to be respectful of my superiors but confident enough to disagree. I am expected to be completely dedicated to my job but well-balanced in life.
Am I alone? Am I pulling these expectations out of thin air? Is it even possible to meet all of these criteria?
When I ask people what they do expect of me, I feel as though I often get very vague answers, which only makes me feel more nervous that I am utterly failing to be what is expected of me.
As a young professional seeking first-time employment in an ever-changing industry, what is expected of me? What do you feel is expected of you?